top of page

Episode 119: How Emotionally Immature Parents Show Up


It’s the third episode in this series on emotional immaturity, and I recommend going back and listening to the first two episodes if you haven’t yet.

Our society is full of emotionally immature parents who can’t (or won’t) accept their children for who they are. If you grew up with an emotionally immature parent, you have to do the work to heal that trauma and learn how to have emotionally mature relationships of your own.

In today’s episode, I’m going in depth on traits of emotionally immature parents, with the help of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. I’m sharing the effects an emotionally mature parent can have on their children, how to understand the ways that unhealthy behaviors can be confused for healthy ones, and the importance of doing the work to heal past trauma and learn to have emotionally mature relationships in your life.

What you’ll find in this episode:

  • Why relationships with emotionally immature people can be painful, and how it feels to be a child with emotionally immature parents who don’t (or can’t) support them

  • Why anger is a typical response to abandonment and how abandonment can lead to blame, depression, and suicidal ideation

  • The importance of knowing how to handle conflict with emotional maturity

  • Why being a parent does not exempt you from respecting boundaries (even though our society would argue otherwise)

  • How role coercion, role entitlement, and codependency show up in emotionally immature people

  • The difference between emotional intimacy and enmeshment, and how you build emotional trust through mutual acceptance

  • Why children of emotionally immature parents desperately seek authentic connection in other relationships

  • Why emotional maturity means being willing to apologize and take accountability for your behavior

Resources mentioned:

Episode #117: My Life Has Changed Forever

Episode #118: Traits of Emotionally Immature People

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson

Are you ready to go deeper? I am giving you the keys to the castle. If you enjoyed this podcast and want to hear more, make sure to subscribe so you’ll never miss an episode! You can connect with me on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok or Youtube.

bottom of page